My father left our family when I was little and never came back. He let me grow up without him. I thought when I became an adult that maybe he was just too weak–no courage–to hang in there with all the responsibilities. Then I found out that he remarried and has children in the new marriage. This was really hard on me and I am still struggling to forgive him. It would have been easier if my first impression was right, that he lacked courage. So, I am trying to forgive him even with this new information. I do see him as confused and he missed out on my brother and me growing up. He may live to regret that. I hope I can forgive enough to talk with him if he contacts us. That is my goal now, to be able to do that if he shows up.