Maintaining a Loving Heart: Part 1 of 3

“As we continually live with love withdrawn from us and a resulting resentment (with the short-term consequences of thinking with a negative pattern, thinking specific condemning thoughts, and acting poorly), we can settle into a kind of long-term distortion of who the love-withdrawing person is, who we ourselves are, and who people are in general. The basic issue here is that once love is withdrawn from us, we can begin to withdraw a sense of worth toward the one who hurt us. The conclusion is that he or she is worth-less. Over time, we can drift into the dangerous conclusion, ‘I, too, am worthless.’ After all, others have withdrawn love from me and have concluded that I lack worth, therefore I do lack worth. Even later, we can drift into the unhealthy conclusion that there is no love in the world and so no one really has any worth, thus everyone is worth-less.” Excerpt from the book, The Forgiving Life, Chapter 1.

One thought on “Maintaining a Loving Heart: Part 1 of 3

  1. Persona May 31, 2012 / 10:16 am

    I had never thought about how devastating it can be when we hold onto resentment. It can almost rob us of our humanity. I now see forgiveness-as-love as a way to preserve my humanity, to actually grow more deeply as a person.

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