Unlikely Friends – Documentary Film Captures Five Forgiveness Stories

By Leslie Neale, Chance Films, Inc.

Would you become friends with the person who shot you or killed your only son?

For most of us this is unimaginable.

There are those, however, who in order to understand the crime have reached through the bars to connect with and then surprisingly befriend the criminals who devastated their lives.

This is the premise of my newly completed film, Unlikely Friends, a feature length documentary narrated by acclaimed actor, Mike Farrell, telling the heroic journey that five victims of horrific, violent crime choose to walk.

The seeds of this film were planted many years ago when I met Nelson, a bank robber featured in my first documentary, Road to Return. Nelson told me he was consumed with an overriding compulsion to go back to the bank he robbed once he was released from prison and APOLOGIZE.

Chance Films Logo3He told me the story of sitting around a conference table in a small town community bank tucked in the rural banks of Louisiana, sharing pictures of one another’s families with the bank’s employees and swapping stories of their lives. They were all crying. The teller, who Nelson held a gun to 12 years prior, finally looked up at him with tears streaming down her face and said, “Thank you. Thank you for coming back here and apologizing because for 12 years I have not been able to get you out of my mind, and I have lived in fear you would come back and kill me.” I thought to myself the brilliance in that simple act of forgiveness. I immediately understood the implications, not only for his heart to be unburdened from the weight of knowing he harmed innocent strangers but also for the victim to be released from the terror of that nightmare. She was finally able to let go of her obsessive thoughts and fears.

This story convinced me to make a film on the concept of forgiveness, to explore how it might be used to affect positive change within our criminal justice system.

Nelson told me that it took him eight years to realize the damaging effects of what he had done. He had left a couple of precious stamps on his bunk “his only link to the outside world” and another inmate stole them. He vowed then to apologize to those he robbed if and when he got out.

The cornerstone to any true and lasting rehabilitation is taking full accountability for what you’ve done. Victims and offenders coming together in victim offender dialogues can be the catalyst for that connection to be made. Forgiveness is not expected from these dialogues but when it happens, it is life changing for both.

Debbie wanted the death penalty for Gabriel, the man who killed her only son. She says she was eaten up with anger and bitterness before she forgave him. In turn, Gabriel shares that her forgiveness affects every action he now takes–if she can forgive him, then he can forgive all the daily transgressions that occur around him in prison. Most of us think theses stories are the exception. Yet, I was surprised to find more stories than I could tell. There are many people who have forgiven acts that most of us deem unforgivable–and the numbers are growing.

Watch a short outtake from the film.

Guest Blog by Leslie Neale, Chance Films, Inc.

5 thoughts on “Unlikely Friends – Documentary Film Captures Five Forgiveness Stories

  1. Matthew March 22, 2013 / 2:31 pm

    Wow. This film looks like it will be amazing. Please keep us updated. This one definitely is on my “must watch” list. Thank you for letting the general public know of its existence.

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  2. Diane March 22, 2013 / 8:22 pm

    This is inspirational. If those who have been brutalized can forgive to such a level then I should be able to forgive people in my life who have done far less. It is good to have role models like this.

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  3. Jonathan March 23, 2013 / 8:31 am

    From wanting the death penalty to loving the other. Forgiveness is a miracle in the heart. These kinds of stories leave me almost speechless at the wonder of it all.

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  4. Nancy March 24, 2013 / 1:28 pm

    The message of this film is important because it shows us all what is possible. Too many documentaries show us what is. This one goes beyond that to the seemingly impossible. We then realize that what was seemingly impossible is possible. Forgiveness does occur on extraordinary levels, and then we are challenged to go beyond our own expectations for ourselves.

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  5. Jazzy March 27, 2013 / 12:31 pm

    So when is this film available? Is it in theaters, on television, DVD on amazon? I would like to view this one.

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