Seeking forgiveness and forgiving are both part of the pathway to reconciliation. ??You ask an intriguing question: What if the other is offended by me and I truly think I have done nothing wrong? ??We recommend saying something like this: “I am sorry that I hurt you when I did X. ??Would you please consider forgiving me for this?” ??As you can see, you are not admitting guilt, but instead you are expressing a truth that you feel badly that he or she was hurt by your actions. ??This may start the process of reconciliation.