Helpful Forgiveness Hint: Struggle and Rest

When you begin to do the work of forgiveness, you should realize that you are practicing a moral virtue.  As Aristotle reminded us 2,350 years ago, to grow in any moral virtue takes effort and is a struggle.  So, please be prepared for some hard work as you proceed.
Gandhi Quote2At the same time, it is important that you not drive at this without rest.  Suppose you are starting an exercise program.  You would not want to put such effort into this that you are spending 8 hours a day, neglecting other aspects of your life.

What you need is balance (or the virtue of temperance).  Yes, work at forgiving and give it your attention, time, and energy.  And yes, rest and refresh.  This latter point is too little emphasized in high-achievement cultures.

Try to enjoy the journey and please do so in such a way that the forgiveness journey itself does not exhaust you, but instead eventually refreshes you.


3 thoughts on “Helpful Forgiveness Hint: Struggle and Rest

  1. Samantha January 12, 2014 / 1:21 pm

    To rest in this circumstance requires wisdom and discipline. I for one like to keep at it until my resentment vanishes, but I know this is unrealistic. I need balance in the struggle to heal.


  2. Penelope January 14, 2014 / 8:29 pm

    The idea of rest and refreshment is so important. I think it gives us time to reflect and to mature and get ready for the next battle for love.


  3. Alexi January 18, 2014 / 10:16 am

    This is wise counsel. We all need to refresh from the battle and to forgive is a battle of the will to submit to love, not an easy task.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s