Two Purposes for You Toward Your Offender

Heart in clouds1) You have a goal of helping the one who hurt you to grow in character. By your love, you can now gently ask something of him or her. What will you ask of him or her, after you have forgiven (so that you can approach this person in love)?

2) You have a goal of trying as best you can to reconcile with the person who hurt you. Is he or she remorseful (with an inner sorrow) and repentant (as he or she expresses this)? Even if the answer is “no,” if he or she is not harmful to you, you can remain in his or her presence with the hope that your love will help the person grow in insight so that he or she changes for the better.

4 thoughts on “Two Purposes for You Toward Your Offender

  1. Adhas February 15, 2015 / 5:34 am

    This helps me to find importance in the act of forgiving someone. They may need my forgiveness to “get their act together.” Thank you.


  2. Chris February 15, 2015 / 5:35 am

    Good point, Adhas. As we forgive we do it for the other. I sometimes need to be reminded of this.


  3. Samantha February 17, 2015 / 4:41 am

    Reconciliation is so hard sometimes. I think it is because 50% of it is out of my control. I can forgive whenever I wish, but to reconcile requires the other person’s cooperation, including being trustworthy.


  4. Nadine February 21, 2015 / 3:01 am

    Knowing specific purposes for forgiving makes it all the more meaningful. I feel motivated now.


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