What would be the point of holding onto your anger in this circumstance? If the anger is excessive, it could bring you down (reduced energy and unhappiness, for example). Holding onto anger is not a successful strategy to get another to ask for forgiveness. Too often people who hurt us and keep on hurting us are unconcerned about our inner world. In such a case, our forgiving can set ourselves free from inner agitation. This then can free up energy to work on genuine communication and possibly reconciliation with the other.