In my experience, people are so closed-minded to the other when that other is hurtful. In other words, the one who was hurt does not even hear what the other has to say. Why bother even starting the process of forgiveness before committing first to being open-minded?

If we wait for open-mindedness to somehow emerge on its own, we could be waiting for a very long time if the hurt was deep. Starting the forgiveness process, even if it is very slowly, can be the catalyst of opening the mind and heart to the other so that the one who is trying to forgive begins to hear, even if to a small degree, what the other is saying.

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