Sometimes people are afraid to bear pain because they think the pain will crush them. I find that when people deliberately make the decision to bear pain, the paradox is that they become stronger. Sometimes people are afraid to face their pain because they are afraid of the anger that wells up inside of them. Yet, starting to forgive can be a way of reducing the anger so that one need not fear either facing the pain or acknowledging the depth of one’s anger. Forgiveness is a way out of that anger so that it does not take control.