You first can become ready to approach the one whom you hurt. The point of approaching the other is to seek forgiveness. Seeking forgiveness includes: 1) remorse or an inner sorrow for having hurt the other; 2) repentance or saying you are sorry (apologizing); and 3) making recompense within reason. If you are a person of faith, then seeking forgiveness from God is important. Finally, practicing self-forgiveness should reduce the guilt. Self forgiveness is not letting yourself off the hook, but instead is unconditionally loving yourself despite what you did. When you seek forgiveness from the other, when you seek forgiveness from God, then you are not engaging in letting yourself off the hook when you self-forgive.