Can fear be reduced when a person forgives?

Yes, as people forgive, they become less fearful of their own anger.  They now know that they have a safety net for reducing that anger if they think about the injustice they have experienced.  Yet, not all anger is reduced.  As an example, suppose a woman forgives her husband for having an affair.  He apologizes, accepts the forgiveness, and yet has another affair.  He has broken trust and so her fear that he will continue with affairs likely will occur (if they stay together).  The fear can diminish as the husband truly shows remorse, repents, and shows behavior of fidelity.  The diminishing of the fear in such a case can take time and is centered on both the forgiving and on a genuine reconciliation in which trust is restored.

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